Yesterday a friend intensely involved in advertising informed me emphatically that both men and women prefer ads featuring photos or videos of WOMEN rather than men. I've heard this perspective from other quarters as well, and my experience on Instagram confirms it. The number of "Likes" garnered by female "selfies" generally far outweighs those gained by the guys. I jokingly told my wife last night that I guess we guys will all need to become transgender if we want to get any attention. "But then the species wouldn't be able to continue!" she replied. Ha! - well, I guess it's good to know that we men are good for SOMETHING :) Actually, she's been telling me for years that even women prefer to look at women.
We guys are told that we aren't supposed to want affirmation for our looks, but I believe this is a part of EVERYONE'S humanity, no matter whether they are male or female. Nancy Friday, in her book "The Power of Beauty," asks honestly: "What is it like to be the invisible sex? It can't be healthy and obviously contributes to the hunger in men's eyes when they stare at us. Men look from woman to woman, never satisfied, always seeking young, lovelier women when actually they feel bereft of beauty within. Money is prodigious power, but it will not warm you. 'Feed me! Feed me!' men's eyes bulge on the street, hungry that no one has seen them."
For myself, I find that when I spend time out in the vast beauty of Nature, that loveliness then begins to transfer itself to me, causing me to feel more attractive in the process. And that, I find, is a very fulfilling thing.
Photos: (Top) Lilypad and a skin of lake ice with snow all around, Nymph Lake, Rocky Mountain National Park, CO, October 23, 2015; (Middle) Aspen trees and the Ruby Range, near Kebler Pass, CO, September 26, 2015; (Bottom) Aspen leaf and fresh snow at Bear Lake with Hallett Peak in the background, Rocky Mountain National Park, CO, October 23, 2015
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Stephen Hatch, M.A. is a spiritual teacher and photographer from Fort Collins, Colorado. His approach is contemplative, inter-spiritual, and Earth-based.