We spend a lot of time in our culture discussing romantic love, and the possibility of finding someone who loves us and whom we can love in return. This is a wonderful thing, of course, for these kinds of relationships are truly the spice of life. However, a more fundamental question is this: have we developed OUR OWN personality and spiritual capacities to a degree that makes US attractive? Not just physically, but in an inner way?
We live in a consumer society that teaches us to value ourselves according to what we passively absorb from the corporate-industrial system. We spend a lot of time buying and consuming the creativity of OTHERS - of the "professionals." In fact, many "dates" involve focusing on someone else's creativity - in the form of a movie, a play, a restaurant dinner, etc. These are all wonderful, of course. But how about exercising our own creativity - both alone and together - and sharing THAT with the beloved?
How about taking a hike together and sharing our experiences of the landscape - the plants, the animals, the weather, the rocks, the streams, the lakes - and then co-creating aspects of OUR OWN personalities (and of the relationship) that mirror the best qualities of those natural features? Or perhaps attending a talk together on a meaningful topic and then going out for coffee afterwards to discuss it? Indeed, conversation itself is actually a creative work of art that far surpasses anything we can buy.
When each partner - both in solitude and together - becomes the uniquely creative person they are meant to be, they thereby become more attractive in the process. How simple!
Photo: Artistic ice in a windstorm on Dream Lake, Rocky Mountain National Park, CO, February 6, 2016
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Stephen Hatch, M.A. is a spiritual teacher and photographer from Fort Collins, Colorado. His approach is contemplative, inter-spiritual, and Earth-based.